Fathers Day

     Fathers Day, a day to celebrate our fathers. Yes, my children showed their love through gifts to their daddy this morning, and I had a small something for him, but did not see him before he left due to the extreme lack of sleep from working this weekend. I could not of asked for a greater daddy for my children, he might be a little tougher then me sometimes, but I am known to have a soft spot. Even though Shawn may not make every game, practice, dr's appointment, etc., he is still there for the kids. He is a great supporter, his work pays the bills to provide them with all they need. May not be all they want, but they have their needs met and then some. Some days it is hard with him being gone so much, but I know he is doing what it takes to show his love to me by letting me only work part time and focus full time on the never ending needs of the kids.
    Not only do my kids have a great daddy, I lucked out and gained a great father in law. He also worked and still works hard to provide and care for his family. He just loves his grandbabies. Our three are my in laws only three grandkids, and boy are they spoiled by poppop, the kids just love him to pieces and love to help him with all his outside work. I hope my boys learn the value of hard work by watching their daddy and poppop. I also have two grandfathers whom I consider one of them to have been my father in every sense of the word, unfortunately due to family crap, that relationship has become a very sad story and one that hurts me everyday due to selfishness of others.
     As I have read all day of my friends lifting up their fathers and calling them daddy, I am brought to tears sometimes because I do have a living father, just one who never acted like one. Unfortunately, for his sake he has 9 grandchildren he can never see due to his past behavior. All by choice of course. I also have a mother , but because of my father can not have a relationship with her three daughters or any of her grandchildren. Kind of sad if you think about it. My sons therapist tells me all the time, even though I have blocked out all the old junk, my father still plays a part in my life and it shows by how I am raising my kids. I swore I would never let my kids feel the way he made me feel, and the way he still makes me feel somedays. I hear his bad voices in my head a lot especially if I feel fat one day or I screwed up someting. Amazing that I still feel crappy sometimes even though he is no longer in  my life. This all was very hard for Shawn to understand, but he has gotten better as so I. Maybe I have just buried it all so I can just move on, but it does come out sometimes especially on days like this. I am always in the healing process, it does help that I have other men in my life whom have taken over the role, and I thank God for that everyday. All in all, I know I always have a Father(God), whom I can lean on to get my through it all everyday.
    Happy Fathers Day to all the great dads out there, especially my hubby and his dad and my grandfathers. And to my friend in NJ whom even though did not know me till later in life has become a great dad figure to me and a wondreful grandpa to the kids.